Saying No

Every morning I wake up to emails, slacks, calls and texts. You probably experience this too: cold emails and unsolicited texts, mixed with important company slacks, mixed with noisy company messages you shouldn't have been tagged on, mixed with a few emails you actually need to respond to. Triage—not work—is taking over our time.

Work was different a few decades ago. You managed a physical inbox and outbox on your desk, handling the items in your inbox and putting completed work in your outbox. The analog work system focused on completing work; the digital-age work system is modeled after an infinite scrolling feed of never-ending to dos.

So how do you focus and do meaningful work?

Hell yeah or no

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.” ―Warren Buffett

In Derek Sivers' book on decision making, Hell Yeah or No, he simplifies things: "If you feel anything less than 'hell yeah!' about something, say no." We say yes too often, he notes. By saying no to almost everything, you leave space for the few things that matter most.

The problem of work in the digital age is that virtually anyone can reach you, and they can reach you at any time. The inbox is now text, call, email, WhatsApp, Instagram DM, LinkedIn message, and more.

Saying no is the key to working through this multi-channel volume of inbound messages and requests. But how do you decide what to say no to, and how do you actually say no? The first step is deciding what to say yes to.

Here's a six step framework for getting to yes:

1. Can you do it now (this week)? No backlogs. Putting something on a backlog is a longer way of ultimately saying no.
2. Does it give you energy? Work on things that excite you. The more energy you have, the more you'll get done.
3. Remove emotion: if you hypothetically ignored how the other person felt when you say no, would you say yes?